Inside Aubrey Plaza and husband Jeff Baena’s private 14-year relationship, shocking death at 47

Aubrey Plaza’s director husband Jeff Baena was found dead in his Los Angeles home on Friday at the age of 47.

The 40-year-old White Lotus star is notoriously private when it comes to her romance with the writer and director, but they have shared insight into their love story on several occasions..

The pair, who started dating in 2011, have co-starred in numerous films, and Aubrey once explained that being in the same “field” really strengthened their relationship.

But she also added that sharing work with a partner can be “difficult” if not done correctly, adding that husbands create a “safe space” and don’t get caught up in “power dynamics.” I believed that it was an achievement.

The low-key couple made headlines in 2021 after Aubrey revealed she secretly married the film director during a surprise ceremony in their backyard.

The wedding was called off after she jokingly proposed that they get married on their 10th anniversary, and the couple took their vows in handmade tie-dyed pajamas in front of their neighbors, who are “real-life witches.” They were seen exchanging.

Aubrey, who had previously come out as bisexual, later revealed that Jeff had received death threats from the LGBTQ+ community over their marriage.

She also opens up about how her relationship has endured its fair share of “rough patches,” and that she struggles with “comparing myself” to “other couples who seem perfect.” revealed.

However, despite the difficulties, they prevailed and by 2022 Aubrey admitted that they are thinking of starting a family together.

she At the time, she revealed that she considered giving birth during the coronavirus pandemic, but ultimately decided not to go into an “apocalyptic world.”

Amid the shocking news of Jeff’s passing, let’s take a look back at Aubrey and Jeff’s 14-year relationship.

From their secret wedding and Aubrey’s confession about why they decided not to have a baby, to their “hard times” and the “death threats” he faced, here’s what we learned about their marriage. Everything you need is here.

Collaborating on numerous projects: Aubrey said being in the same field helped them understand each other “on a deeper level”

The two began dating around 2011, but the exact date of their relationship and how they met are unknown.

Over the years, the two have appeared in numerous films, including the 2014 film Life After Beth, 2016’s Josie, 2017’s Little Hours, and the 2022 comedy Spin Me Round. We have been working on a project together.

In 2019, Aubrey explained that being on the same “field” helped them “understand each other on a deeper level.”

“I think when you’re with people in your field, they understand what you’re working on on a deeper level,” the actress told People magazine at the time.

“So obviously you guys can support each other and really understand kind of the journey that we’re both on.”

Aubrey noted that it can be difficult to “work together with your partner” and explained that it’s also important to spend time away from each other due to work commitments.

“I think that’s really great, but it’s always difficult to work with a partner,” she continued.

“There are a lot of things we do separately, but I think it’s all about balance.

“I think one of the great things about our careers is that it forces us to be independent, take a little break, go out and do our own thing and come back.

“So it’s kind of fun. It’s never the same. I don’t want to spend too much time apart. But I think there’s a way to make it work and there’s a balance.”

Aubrey also explained on The Drew Barrymore Show in 2021 that working with her husband is “so great” but “complicated.”

“It comes with extreme highs and extreme complications,” she says. “It’s a really hard thing to get through, but we’ve been together for 11 years. We’re just going to stick together and get through it.”

Speaking to Cosmopolitan in 2022, Aubrey said that “a little competition” helps keep their romance “interesting and passionate.”

“But I think collaboration is key,” she added. “You have to create a really safe space to work together, because you’re the only one who can really piss your partner off, and you’re the one they seek approval from the most.” And you’re also a human being.” That can bring them down so hard.

“There’s also a strange dynamic that occurs when one person is a director and another is an actor.

“There’s all these unspoken rules. I don’t know. I don’t want to compete with my partner. I want to compete with everyone.”

Jeff spoke passionately about working with Aubrey, telling Reel Talker in 2022, “She’s amazing.” If she wasn’t my wife, I would have worked with her, but luckily she is my wife.

“Opportunity to do something creative. [together] A place where we are both fulfilled – how rare is that?

A spontaneous wedding: The couple wore matching pajamas and secretly tied the knot in their backyard

Aubrey subtly announced that she had secretly gotten married in May 2021 while promoting her movie Spin Me Round.

At the time, she praised the film on her Instagram, calling Jeff her “husband” in the post.

“I’m so proud of my beloved husband for taking us to Italy and dreaming up another movie that would cause even more trouble,” she wrote.

Months later, she revealed details of her private wedding on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, revealing that they had a very low-key backyard wedding after “getting a little bored one night” during the COVID-19 lockdown. He explained that he got married.

“One night we were a little bored. So we got married. I’ll tell you how: Onehourmarriage.com. It’s true, look it up,” she said.

“We were in lockdown and things got a little crazy, especially at my house.”

Aubrey explained that they “wanted to do something” to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary and “joked” that they were “getting married.”

However, Jeff liked the idea and quickly set up a ceremony, which was held on the lawn outside the house.

She said she created her own “altar of love” by finding someone to officiate it on the website Onehourmarriage.com.

“We had already ordered food, so my now-husband went to some restaurant to pick it up,” she said.

“He almost missed the wedding because he had to wait so long for his order to arrive.

“I built a very quick altar of love in the garden: the facts of our love, small stones, smoke, fire. Things of that nature.

“Then, [officiant] He emerged from the Alhambra wearing a Hawaiian shirt and carrying a briefcase. I didn’t remember much of it, it was vague. But I’m sure it was legal. ”

She also described the ritual as “witch-like” and explained that she asked her neighbor, who is a “real-life witch,” to give her a blessing.

“She went into the house and walked around. [Then] I came out with the rosemary wreath she gave me. She literally giggled,” the star revealed.

They both wore tie-dye pajamas made by Jeff, who completed the look with a crown.

Overcoming public backlash: Jeff received ‘death threats’ over marriage, Aubrey admits going through ‘tough times’ at times

Aubrey, who has previously come out as bisexual, told Cosmopolitan that people in the LGBTQ+ community sent Jeff “death threats” after she spoke about the wedding.

“Jeff received death threats in his DMs,” she said. “People project a lot of things onto marriage, but what I’m trying to say is not some big statement that I want people to react to.”

In 2022, Aubrey admitted to GQ that she thought: She gave birth during a pandemic, but ultimately decided not to give birth due to the “apocalyptic world situation.”

She told the magazine that she had “always wanted” to have children.

But she was also honest about how their relationship had its fair share of “difficult parts.”

Reflecting on her relationship with Harper, who plays White Lotus, she told the magazine, “My husband and I have been together for 12 years.” I’ve been in a relationship that has had its ups and downs, and I can relate to going through tough times and comparing yourself to other couples who seem perfect. ”

Jeff dies shockingly at age 47: The film director was found dead in his LA home on Friday by his assistant.

Jeff’s body was discovered Friday by an assistant at the Los Feliz home he and Aubrey purchased in 2022.

The Los Angeles Fire Department told DailyMail.com that officers were called to the home at 10:25 a.m.

“A man, approximately 47 years old, was pronounced dead but was not transported,” they said in a statement.

The “Life After Beth” director was pronounced dead at the scene.

The family told Deadline they are shocked by the news and ask for privacy at this time.

DailyMail.com has reached out to Aubrey and Jeff’s representatives and police for comment.

Aubrey has not publicly commented on her husband’s death.

He is survived by his wife, mother Barbra Stern, stepfather Roger Stern, stepmother Michele Baena, brother Brad Baena, and stepbrothers Bianca Gabai and Jed Flaxman.

Aubrey is scheduled to attend the Golden Globe Awards ceremony on Sunday, January 5th.